What would Jamie Lee Curtis do?
This week has been an emotional shit show.
I have felt low. I have felt like a failure.
Second guessing my abilities and contribution.
I have cried several times in public, trying to shake off a stubborn feeling that won’t go away.
It is hard to put yourself out there, for the world to see. You open yourself up to judgement, opinions and beliefs of others.
It’s funny I have always been a person, who despite the fear, will take a chance to create, even if I don’t know if it will land or be successful with others.
For me at the end of the day, success is not how much exposure, following, money you make or the notoriety that comes with putting your ideas out there- it is more about the feeling you create.
The space you create, that gives others a sense of love, purpose and joy.
This week I got caught up on what others think I should be or what I need to be doing.
I am my own worst critic.
I am the first to spell out my shortcomings, before giving anyone else the chance.
I can be defensive and stubborn. But I am also someone who is an empath, who hides under rugs at fear of confrontation and letting people down.
I am known for being absolutely rubbish at boundaries, because I am a people pleaser, and it is more important to make others happy before I work on my own happiness.
And that is where I have found myself this week. In the trenches of realisation, that I really don’t need validation from everyone, I just need to be happy in myself.
And I need to practice what I preach, but geez, it is tough.
However, there was one shining light this week.
Jamie Lee Curtis.
I have loved following her this award season (love she won a Oscar) and her infectious personality, no bullshit approach to uplifting not just women, but all humans.
Jamie has led by example and shown us all that it costs nothing to be kind, to support other people and to cheer them on.
It has been a joy to watch her on social media, read articles online about living her best life and how we can all take notes from her example. I want to be Jamie Lee Curtis when I grow up.
Nuggets of gold I have taken from Jamie Lee Curtis that have helped me this week:
It is okay to fail, you can still have fun and feel like a winner.
Be weird, fly your freak flag, don’t be afraid to be different.
When you hype other people, you win too.
To love our bodies and not hide from them.
Enjoy life and where you at ,relish the moments, stand up for yourself and others.
Amongst the rollercoaster of emotions, public cries and feeling less than who I normally am, it was good to take stock and look at Jamie Lee Curtis and remember the hype.
The hype of championing other women but also that it is okay to give yourself some of that hype. Because when there is no one hyping you up, it is up to us to cheer ourselves on, when we feel like giving up.
My husband said something very profound to me this week, that injected a bit of hype:
‘Fal, its okay to fall but you can’t stay down. You need to stand tall and keep on fighting. Don’t give up. Keep growing.”
And that is all we can do. Learn from the bumps in the road, remember we can do hard things and ask ourselves, what would Jamie Lee Curtis do?